My husband and I have been pretty dead set on going to Colorado, our land of opportunity and legal weed. Our Promised Land. California has gotten claustrophobic and uncomfortable with the amount of regulations on simply being a human. You can't walk out the door without worrying if your clothes are environmentally friendly. Also, the cost of living is way too fucking high.
$1895 / 500ft - Studio (Noe Valley)
Maybe you didn't see that... $1895 for 500 FUCKING FEET. And guess what, someone in San Francisco is going to be EXSTATIC over how "affordable it is for the area." Pffffffffttttttt yeah right.
Looking at Colorado we were greeted with so many options for buying a home, renting to own, and learning that being alive doesn't always have to be expensive. Plus, despite cost of living being so much lower, the average income is the same (if not more) than the bay area. OK, so far Colorado is in the lead.
If the problem is money, why not just find a good paying job here in California? Well, applicant to job ratio is significantly disproportionate. One job opening will have 80 or more people fighting each other for the slight possibility of being interviewed. Long story short, it's hard out here for a pimp. It's not anything new that getting a job is not easy here in California. The Colorado economy is in a much better position, and has more jobs with less people. Colorado: still looking good.
Moving out of California would be scary, perhaps even terrifying for me. All my life, I have lived near my parents, either in the same town or 2 hours away. Yes, it sounds childish but my family has been my constant, the only people who helped me keep my shit together during the hardest years of my life and leaving them will be heartbreaking. Not being able to hug my dad until the next one of us books a flight? Oh my Science, kill me now. However, what comes from this immediate separation is the chance for Will and I to become a stronger entity. We will have no one to depend on but ourselves, and for a while we will be each others only friends. This move would be a leap of faith, and complete trust that I am 100% sure we will not fail, as a couple and at stepping out on our own. Colorado: still gaining steam.
For many reasons, I am ready to take that leap of faith. We believe enough in each other and in our marriage that failure is not a possibility.
Well. Now a curveball has been thrown our way. For months now I have been determined to move to Colorado, nothing can change my mind, no matter how many people were pissed or sad that I was leaving; it did not matter. Then, it came up that I might have a possible job offer in San Francisco that would accomplish the goals we were hoping to achieve in Colorado. We would be financially independent, stable, debt free, and working towards our future family. I would have health insurance, and possibly have some of my graduate school paid for. Everything that we would be moving for...So now what?
I asked Will, "where will you be the happiest, like, where does your heart want to be?" His response (get ready for an aweeeehhhh) "wherever you are, is where I am happy. I don't care where we end up, as long as we are together." I love him. It proves the point that home is where the heart is, and no matter where you are you can be happy.
I thought that California was the source of my frustration and discontent. But, maybe it's just where I am at the moment. Living in a cramped house with no marital autonomy, unable to enjoy being newlyweds, and barely staying out of financial distress. We can stay in California and move to another town and start our life anew, without a costly move so far away.
Perhaps I thought moving far away would fill the void of what I have been "missing" all these years. When in reality, there is no longer a void because I found what I was searching for within my husband, and it doesn't matter which state we live in as long as we have each other.
We have a song, and it gets us through shitty days and tough times. My Pandora station seems to always know when I am thinking of him because it plays this song constantly.
It helps remind me that I have all that I need, no matter where I end up.